Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our one year wedding anniversary.
I love my husband more than anything in this world but like other couples we have had our issues. It’s easy for couples to have a “perfect” marriage on Facebook or Instagram. However, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Couples disagree, fight, argue and sometimes just don’t like each other.
Come on now….you can love your husband or wife but not always like them. I’m not going to lie I am guilty….my husband is too. If you say you’re not then you may be fibbing.
According to other people my marriage was doomed from the beginning. I was marrying a man who had four small children and two ex-wives. For other people this was a big shock and they were sure it would end in divorce. Of course they always wanted to add their two-cents on the situation.
Notice the trend “other people.” Other people were not going to be in my marriage. Other people didn’t really matter (except one “person” that you’ll read about later in the post)
When we first got together everything was amazing. We were so in love and life couldn’t get any better.
Then came the wedding planning. I turned into a crazy person! I was so on edge and irritable. Things started getting real and we started constantly bickering and getting on each others nerves. Our main problem was communication. We both walked on egg shells around each other.
We even discussed putting off the wedding. But of course that was not going to happen in my eyes.
So we went ahead and got married without fully working on our communication issues. My husband even said over and over again that it was something we needed to work on. I was in denial and didn’t think our problems were that big of a deal.
However, they were a huge deal! Communication is one of the most important aspects of a successful marriage.
It took us almost splitting up for me to open my eyes. I was sitting in my room one day crying and I realized what my life was missing. It was missing the Lord.
How on earth did I think that my marriage would work without Him? Remember earlier when I said that no one else mattered in our marriage except one person? That person is the Lord. You and your husband both have to love and have Him in your life!
“A Husband can love his wife BEST when he loves God FIRST.”
This quote is also for wives. You must have an even yoke which means you both must be believers.
My husband and I both rededicated our lives in the same week! We knew the importance of having faith in our marriage and life in general. We also got baptized on the same day. We couldn’t wait to enjoy a very blessed life together as a married couple walking alongside the Lord!
From the moment we got saved we could see a HUGE difference in our marriage and lives. We were now able to effectively communicate! This was a major step in the right direction for us. I am no longer irritable and terrible to be around. I am still grouchy and emotional (hey now it would take a miracle to fix it all) but we can definitely feel a difference in our hearts. To be honest it is such a better way of living. We now have the most important person you can have on your side guiding us along the way.
It has definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions but like they say the first year is the hardest. BUT I wouldn’t trade any of it! Josh and I are more in love and happier now than when we started dating. We now have a deeper love and understanding of each other. We owe every single bit of it to the Lord. Without him we wouldn’t have been able to make it. He sent me Joshua and then showed us that without Him we wouldn’t have anything. I want to thank Him for that! I love my husband more than I can possibly put into words. I can’t wait to spend a lifetime of anniversaries to come with him.
“And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6 (NKJV)